Do I want to blog about this topic? not really.
Does this topic need to be blogged about? yes.
Male friends sometimes say to me, “I’m sick of the games women play. Everytime I’m nice I get walked on. I did everything she wanted and she dumped me. I’m done with that. I’m gonna be a ‘bad guy. That’s what women want anyway.'” Dudes dudes dudes. Why do you do this? I never hear women saying “Jimbob treated me like crap again. So from here on out, I’m a bitch to every guy I meet.” Guys, you lllooovveeee bitches right?
One thing I’ve learned: If you have to say “I’m gonna be a bad guy,” you aren’t a bad guy, nor will any attempt at being one work out for you. Bad boys are emotionally unstable wimps who refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Oh and have control issues. And usually aren’t capable to even be a good friend to someone, much less handle communicating with a woman.
Somehow, the wires of reality jumbled and men everywhere got the impression that women want and respect ‘bad boys.’
Bad boys are a male version of a female stripper. Some like them, some don’t, they’re interesting the first 2 minutes, have their own agenda, baggage, issues, and only SUCKERS take them seriously.
Being yourself shouldn’t be such an identity struggle. That’s why I dont understand when men come out of a relationship swearing they aren’t gonna be a ‘nice’ guy anymore. What the hell does that mean? Was it an act? Were you being yourself?
Here’s my .02. Guys who are real are hot. Confidence is a great thing. Don’t overdo it by ‘taking care’ or revolving your entire life around your partner. That’s when things get boring, because you lose your own personality. Also, there’s a big difference between looking like a bad boy and being a complete jerk. Just because a guy has tattoos and a rough exterior doesnt mean he treats his woman like dirt. Yeah, I like the bad boy look. But it’s the attitude and personality under it that matters. I like a challenge, I like it when a guy can disagree with me or tells me if I’m doing something he feels is wrong.
Anyways, I believe when you meet the “right” one, it’s because both people are being themselves and hit it off just naturally. Yeah the first, second, fifteenth person you date may turn out to not be the one, but it shouldn’t warrant an identity crisis.